Seven Steps to Attracting the "Perfect for Me" Mate

Lilly has been on two dates with Jim. On their first date, they both seemed to have a great time, but on the second date, Lilly decided that Jim does not have the qualities she was looking for. She will not date him again.

For many singles, this is normal. People make decisions like this every day, but for Lilly, it’s a catastrophe. This is the 6th person in two months that she’s dated and she has yet to find the perfect man.

The process for attracting the perfect mate is actually very easy. If Lilly would follow these seven steps, she would find the perfect mate in no time.

1. Let go of the idea that your mate has to be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect mate, however, there is a “perfect for me” mate.

2. Make a list of all of the qualities you want in your “perfect for me” mate. Which qualities stand out as the most important? Those are the qualities you should look for.

3. Visualize the person who has these qualities. What does he or she feel like energetically to you? Stay in this visualization for as long as you can – this will bring what you want faster than anything else will.

4. Now that you know what it feels like energetically, become that person as much as you can by taking on those important qualities. What you are doing here is you are shifting yourself so you attract someone like you.

5. When you shift, you get new ideas on places to look for the new mate because those are the places you are automatically attracted to. Go there whenever possible.

6. Know that you are automatically attracting the “perfect for me” mate. If you have trouble knowing it, then affirm it every day by writing it and saying it as an affirmation. The more you affirm it, the faster you will believe it.

7. Center yourself or ground yourself. Put yourself in a mental space of letting whatever happens happen. Be happy where you are and let everything else go. This sounds hard, but once you do it, it’s actually easy to do again.

Anyone wanting to attract the “perfect for me” mate will have great success by following these seven steps. Stick to the plan and you’ll attract what you want in no time.

Wendi Moore-Buysse is a professional speaker who works with businesses that want to market to women. She speaks professionally to, coaches, teaches, and consults with women who want to develop problem-solving skills and leadership skills using intuition, self-talk, and the belief system. Her books from the Life’s Little Cheat Sheets Series, including "Shifting Gears: Get Moving in the Right Direction", are available through her website and events. "Shifting Gears" includes ways to shift your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want. Visit http://www.wendimoore.com for more information and to read her Life's Little Cheat Sheets™blog.